6 Classic Lessons: From the writer of “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”

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From: Stephen Covey

The 7 Habits has a way of seeping you in, with several life lessons touching on almost every aspect of life from marriage to parenting to leadership.

1. Putting First Things First

“Easy leadership is putting first things first”.

In order to be a great leader, one has to prioritize the most important things before others, and has to distinguish the most critical from the insignificant and place the critical first.

First in order, then first in priority and first in rank. If the critical is placed first, and given the critical focus and attention, there is certainly effectiveness in leadership with soar.

2. Begin With The End In Mind

It is important in everything that we do, we ask ourselves what we are trying to accomplish. It is more adept at answering this question for the short and medium term goals. You will realize, you can get better at beginning with the end in mind for longer term goals but you my still have to put in more effort to get there.

3. Think Of Win-Win Situations

“This is a frame of the heart and mind that always seeks mutual benefit in all interactions of humans”

According to Covey, Win-Win means agreements are mutually satisfying and beneficial. He says that the way people think in terms of dichotomies; win or lose, hardball or softball, strong or weak is fundamentally flawed.

4. Stick To Your Main End Goal

“The main goal is to keep the main goal the main goal”

It is important that you never lose sight of the big picture and always be determined by keeping the main thing the main thing.

Failure is hugely contributed to by losing focus. Even though you have a good start, it is essential that you avoid all sorts of distractions and attractions you may experience in life that may sidetrack you. Be focused on the main thing, and keep it the main thing!

5. Your Character Is Critical

Stephen Covey teaches us that our character is a composite of our habits, and therefore, we should know that character is very critical. Watch your habits because they determine your character and it is your character that defines your life. It is difficult to rise higher than your character’s fortitude. Your character forms the foundation for your life and for you to change your life, you have to change your character.

6. Be Good At Listening

Lastly, we first need to understand, to be understood. Listen to what other people have to say and try to understand them. Equally, they will grant you the same courtesy and respect your opinions just as you have shown them. Stephen writes,

“We have a tendency to rush things, and fix them up with good advice”

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What do we need..? A Transformation or a Change..?

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From: My Own 

Change: Scientifically it is “become different.. but for me it is ” a reversible process where nothing is permanent..“… it is like seasons, there is no permanent change, if there is spring then it will change to summer after a short duration, there everything is for a short time and change can be reversible too.

Transformation: Scientifically it is “a marked change in form, nature, or appearance..” but for me it is “An irreversible change from one stage to a better new stage…” Its like the transformation of caterpillar to beautiful butterfly, where there is no coming back.

Why do we need a transformation..?

The answer is very simple, we all are not living as like we live in our dreams also we miss the passion to live the way we really want. This is why we sometimes feel exhausted and frustrated, so we need a transformation from this level to something new and better level where we can enjoy the success and the failures too…

Is it possible to transform ourselves..?

Well, we don’t need to talk about theories of transformations, let’s take some real examples of people who transformed their life.

1. Judge Mathis

A real example for personal life transformation (Street gang to superior court judge)

Judge Greg Mathis was a member of the notorious Detroit street gang, the Errol Flynns. At age 17, he was incarcerated after being arrested several times. After his release, Mathis went to college where he became a campus activist; and he was later elected a superior court judge for Michigan’s 36th District.

2. Harland David Sanders (KFC)

A real example of business life transformation (Failure to Success)

Harland David Sanders, the famous KFC “Colonel,” couldn’t sell his chicken. More than 1,000 restaurants rejected him. But then one did, and today there are KFC restaurants bearing his image all over the world.

3. Richard Grasso

Richard Grasso © Daniel Acker/Bloomberg/Getty Images

A real example for professional life transformation (floor clerk to Chairman of NYSE)

The New York Stock Exchange’s high-powered executive kicked off his career in 1968, when he was hired as a floor clerk in the exchange’s mailroom. At the time of his retirement, he was the chairman of the New York Stock Exchange

So all the above mentioned examples are proven that the transformation is possible in all the areas of our life. But would have happened if all the above examples were just a change..? Ohhh.. !!

How can we transform our life and achieve the three levels of success..?

Its true that we can divide out life into three levels, that can help us to focus exactly where we need the transformation. The following are the three levels:

  1. Personal: Here is your happiness lies
  2. Profession: Here is your growth lies
  3. Business: Here is your success lies

The process of transformation starts from a determination “I Want To Transform…”. Yes, if you want transform your life to the level that you dream always, you need to take it in your heart and you need to find out your passion; the ultimate thing that makes you feel happiness, success and everything.

I would say, set realistic targets in each of the three levels and be committed to it, you will feel that your life is transforming. Only a daily habit can make a transformation, so change your habit. 

Follow the things that mentioned below:-

1. Personal life: Make a new daily habit, nothing can transform you  until you  take a daily implementation. For example drink more water to reduce your weight, smile at people, read books to expand your knowledge, take things positively by saying positive things, keep commitments, try to say NO when it needed etc. These simple habits can change your personal life.

2. Professional Life: Keep professional commitments, prepare well, always give more than expected, grab the opportunity, squeeze your knowledge and aim to earn experience. Have a clean focus on these and do things that can take you to these areas.

3. Business Life: Always ensure that three people are with you; a visionary (may be you), a strategist and an executioner. Business life will be a success when you have these three people with you. To transform you business believe in the following:-

SAVE (S- Solution, A- Accessibility, V- Value and E- Educate)

Whatever be the business, it should address all the factors that mentioned above. SAVE is the key to transform your business life. 

So “transform your life and live as you live in your dream…”

24 Things to Remember in Your Life

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From: Margie Harrel’s blog

1. Your presence is a present to the world.

2. You’re unique and one of a kind.

3. Your life can be what you want it to be

4. Take the days just one at a time.

5. Count your blessings, not your troubles.

6. You’ll make it through whatever comes along.

7. Within you are so many answers.

8. Understand, have courage, be strong.

9. Don’t put limits on yourself.

10. So many dreams are waiting to be realized.

11. Decisions are too important to leave to chance.

12. Reach for your peak, your goal, and your prize.

13. Nothing wastes more energy than worrying.

14. The longer one carries a problem, the heavier it gets.

15. Don’t take things too seriously.

16. Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.

17. Remember that a little love goes a long way.

18. Remember that a lot . . . goes forever.

19. Remember that friendship is a wise investment.

20. Life’s treasures are people . . . together.

21. Realize that it’s never too late.

22. Do ordinary things in an extraordinary way.

23. Have health and hope and happiness.

24. Take the time to wish upon a star.  

10 Things: The Life Taught Me…

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From: My Life (Abin c Pascal)

Play the moments, pause the memories, stop the pain, and rewind the happiness

 …Mary Ann

 1.       Education: It is for sharing and using not to keep as a safe thing in your pocket

Education: the base of a quality life. Education is not only getting the knowledge but it is all about sharing and using that in practical life. A man with a bundle of unused and unshared knowledge is like a man with a big jar of wine but not tasting and sharing it. It is worth nothing but wasting the space. Always share what you have and use it. The people will say that you are a leader and a consultant.

2.       Career: If you go for experience and knowledge, career will be lucrative and full of excitements

It a common illusion we turn our career into a cash plowing field in the beginning itself, it is a great mistake!!! Always follow you passion to choose your career and in the starting we will be facing liters and liters of difficulties but if you give your focus only on your experience and knowledge, soon you will be plowing tons and tons of benefits from your career. You will get the moneyfame and strength automatically. So focus on your passionknowledge and experience.

3.       Being positive is always gives you pleasure

Positive the word itself gives some positive energy. When I was starting my career as a management consultant, the challenges were high but now I am enjoying the job like anything and I am passionate about this job. See everything as a symbol of positive energy you will find no challenges but opportunities.

4.       Creating impact on others will make you remembered forever

“IMPACT”: When we say the word, we can feel the pressure and strength of it. Anybody can live in the world but at the end of the day people will remember only those who created some impact over their lives and such people are remembered foreverAlways ensure that your job, your character, your presence and your love has made some kind of impact on others. This is the only reason people feel void when they miss somebody. Think about it, think about the people who are in contact with you and think about the changes that they made only because of your presence, if there is it means you live in their minds

5.       Attitude matters- It’s a choice

Attitude is the only thing that matters in the new world. Attitude means the way you see the challenges as opportunities, the way you learn failure as the lesson of success, the way you behave when you are in the top position, the way you mind people when you have everything in your hand. From my consulting experience, I interviewed more than 1500 candidates and the major factor that I measured was the attitude of them. A good attitude will take you to the top level even if you are on the ground.

6.       Rectifying mistakes at right time will be valued more than a success

Mistakes!!! It is not at all a mistake if you rectify it at the right time. Always accept the mistakes that you have done and rectify it at the right time, then people will respect and your mistakes will not be counted. Learn from each mistake and teach others and improve yourself and never repeat the same again.

7.       Priority is the only thing that makes you win the game

Life is all about priorities, everything that you do is unknowingly prioritized by your mind and brain. If you don’t prioritize the life will no longer go like you dream, so always prioritize things that you like and follow that. In other words prioritizing is a common sense that helps you to understand what is more important to you.

8.       Love can change everything

Love the only thing that nobody can define properly, but it’s a feelLove and impact are highly co-related. When you love somebody, only the positive impact can make him/her love you back. It can change anything, it can break any rules and boundaries that mankind defined. If the impact of your love is high and deep then you will feel the changes around you, people will start feeling void in your absence.

9.       Solitude will help you to find yourself if you take it positively

Everybody feels that solitude or being alone is dark but for me it is the situation that helps me to discover the things in me. When I am alone I don’t have any boundaries in expressing what I feel then and there, I could go anywhere I wish to go, I could dream without any disturbances and I could talk to myself  and many more. All these things would shape the character of mine. So believe solitude can brings you better thoughts and realizations. Try at least once and you will explore who you are and what you want in your life.

10.   Creating great memories give you mesmerizing moments…always

Creating great memories is the place where everything come together, love, impact, passion and life. I have learned that great memories are always come from great love and passion because the impact of those two things will be remembered and live forever. Think anybody who is contact with you, a name will come like a swift, it only because they have made an impact and that you remember every time when you think about them. These moments are called mesmerizing moments that make you feel special every time.  Yes, I feel the great memories….

Mentally Strong People: The 13 Things They Avoid

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From: Forbes Magazine

1. Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves. You don’t see mentally strong people feeling sorry for their circumstances or dwelling on the way they’ve been mistreated. They have learned to take responsibility for their actions and outcomes, and they have an inherent understanding of the fact that frequently life is not fair. They are able to emerge from trying circumstances with self-awareness and gratitude for the lessons learned. When a situation turns out badly, they respond with phrases such as “Oh, well.” Or perhaps simply, “Next!”

2. Give Away Their Power. Mentally strong people avoid giving others the power to make them feel inferior or bad. They understand they are in control of their actions and emotions. They know their strength is in their ability to manage the way they respond.

3.    Shy Away from Change. Mentally strong people embrace change and they welcome challenge. Their biggest “fear,” if they have one, is not of the unknown, but of becoming complacent and stagnant. An environment of change and even uncertainty can energize a mentally strong person and bring out their best.

4. Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control. Mentally strong people don’t complain (much) about bad traffic, lost luggage, or especially about other people, as they recognize that all of these factors are generally beyond their control. In a bad situation, they recognize that the one thing they can always control is their own response and attitude, and they use these attributes well.

5. Worry About Pleasing Others. Know any people pleasers? Or, conversely, people who go out of their way to dis-please others as a way of reinforcing an image of strength? Neither position is a good one. A mentally strong person strives to be kind and fair and to please others where appropriate, but is unafraid to speak up. They are able to withstand the possibility that someone will get upset and will navigate the situation, wherever possible, with grace.

6. Fear Taking Calculated Risks. A mentally strong person is willing to take calculated risks. This is a different thing entirely than jumping headlong into foolish risks. But with mental strength, an individual can weigh the risks and benefits thoroughly, and will fully assess the potential downsides and even the worst-case scenarios before they take action.

7. Dwell on the Past. There is strength in acknowledging the past and especially in acknowledging the things learned from past experiences—but a mentally strong person is able to avoid miring their mental energy in past disappointments or in fantasies of the “glory days” gone by. They invest the majority of their energy in creating an optimal present and future.

8. Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over. We all know the definition of insanity, right? It’s when we take the same actions again and again while hoping for a different and better outcome than we’ve gotten before. A mentally strong person accepts full responsibility for past behavior and is willing to learn from mistakes. Research shows that the ability to be self-reflective in an accurate and productive way is one of the greatest strengths of spectacularly successful executives and entrepreneurs.

9. Resent Other People’s Success. It takes strength of character to feel genuine joy and excitement for other people’s success. Mentally strong people have this ability. They don’t become jealous or resentful when others succeed (although they may take close notes on what the individual did well). They are willing to work hard for their own chances at success, without relying on shortcuts.

10. Give Up After Failure. Every failure is a chance to improve. Even the greatest entrepreneurs are willing to admit that their early efforts invariably brought many failures. Mentally strong people are willing to fail again and again, if necessary, as long as the learning experience from every “failure” can bring them closer to their ultimate goals.

11. Fear Alone Time. Mentally strong people enjoy and even treasure the time they spend alone. They use their downtime to reflect, to plan, and to be productive. Most importantly, they don’t depend on others to shore up their happiness and moods. They can be happy with others, and they can also be happy alone.

12. Feel the World Owes Them Anything. Particularly in the current economy, executives and employees at every level are gaining the realization that the world does not owe them a salary, a benefits package and a comfortable life, regardless of their preparation and schooling. Mentally strong people enter the world prepared to work and succeed on their merits, at every stage of the game.

13. Expect Immediate Results. Whether it’s a workout plan, a nutritional regimen, or starting a business, mentally strong people are “in it for the long haul”. They know better than to expect immediate results. They apply their energy and time in measured doses and they celebrate each milestone and increment of success on the way. They have “staying power.” And they understand that genuine changes take time. Do you have mental strength? Are there elements on this list you need more of? With thanks to Amy Morin, I would like to reinforce my own abilities further in each of these areas today. How about you?