The Three Life Changing Answers- Live a New Life

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From: My Life

Recently when I was on the way to my hometown for a function, my mind was wandering through the memories of the past seven years in my life, especially my friends, the incidents, the surprises and everything that happened in those years. I was knowingly or unknowingly searching for the answers to make me feel better than before also to clear my mind and finally I found the answers; here are those:-

  • Nobody can cheat you unless and until you let them – It’s a fact
  • You are the only reason for your happiness – It’s an attitude
  • If you avoid the reality, you will realize the consequences of avoiding the reality – It’s a breakthrough

1- Nobody can cheat you unless and until you let them- It’s a fact: People including me sometimes say “he/she cheated me etc…” but think once again, is that true? no its not. What I have experienced is that I failed to understand that person to the core, so I made a chance for him/her to cheat me by trusting him/her. So when you trust people, always ensure that you know about him/her in detail also you should feel comfortable when you are with him/her otherwise never trust them. Trust comes only through real understanding and commitment, not through any demands or requests. Like pure love, there is no any condition for trust…

2- You are the only reason for your happiness- It’s an attitude: As a social animal, the attitude and the reactions of the society may affect us both positively and negatively. There may be many situations when we feel exhausted, depressed and terminated because of the people and incidents around us. It’s true that we cannot change anybody unless and until they are ready, so what we can do is change our attitude. When you start believing in this concept, means “you are the only reason for your happiness” you will feel comfortable in every situation even it is bad or worst. You will start filtering the emotions, reactions and the responses from the people around you; finally you will learn to accept the positive things and the happiness from everything.

3- If you avoid the reality, you will realize the consequences of avoiding the reality- It’s a breakthrough: Sometimes we know something that is going to happen wrong but we used to say “let’s see”; in all those situations we might faced some challenges only because of avoiding the reality. I had an experience in this. So long before, I knew it would happen and finally I realized that the consequence was more that I could manage. So never try to avoid the reality, still if you want to take risk, take calculated risk only so that you can manage consequences effectively and without any harm.

 So keep the answers in your heart and live your life the way you want it…

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Complicated Life..? Follow These Two Ideas

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From: My Experience

Like everyone in the world, I also want to celebrate and live a very simple life. So here the question starts:-

How to live a very simple life or how to avoid complicated life situations..? This question made me to think about my past experiences where I felt my life was complicated and tough, finally I could find and summarize all those ways to simplify the life by just following two ideas in life

  1. Take A Break
  2. Make Room For What You Really Love

Take A Break:- It means, avoid the stuffs that squeeze your energy and spirit. In most of the complicated life we can see that they are always in tie up with the things that they don’t really need. This means take a break from:-

  • Negative people: One of the main reason for complicated life is because of the unhealthy relationship with people around us. Just let them go if they only spread negative energy and emotions and if possible wipe out the memories too.
  • Changing others: Nobody can change anyone without there willingness, so stop trying to change people who never willing to simplify there life.
  • Overtime work: Are we working for the living or living for working..? Think about it and ensure that you get enough breathing time to spent with the people and to do the things that you like to do.
  • Online presence: The modern trend, just take a break for sometime from the social and other online media, and try to find the time to make real friends. There are people who desperately looking for the status updates of others and the notification symbol to pop up. I believe you will definitely get enough time to do what you love.
  • Over expressing: Never show your emotions and feelings to those who don’t deserve it, you will feel exhausted so take a break from showing your feelings to everyone. Be selective and make it better.
  • Untidy rooms: The youngsters special, it is quite true that the place where we spent the time should be neat and comfortable or you will feel messy everywhere even in your daily routine. Take a break from messing up your room.
  • Being diplomatic: Diplomatic people never enjoy a relaxed life because they don’t know how to say “NO”, the single word that can minimize most of the issues. Try to say when you don’t like something, people will respect you and they will change the way they see you.

Make Room For What You Really Love: Always find the time to live for what you love. If you find your passion, no more you will work but you will start living a life that you really love. Identify what makes you happy, energetic, comfortable, freshness and feel special, so make a room for the following:-

  • The people: Spent time with the people who care for you, who loves you and they think you are important to them. It will give you the best life even if you don’t have anything else.
  • The passion: Always give the room for passion; without passion you will never happy with your work, career and life. Follow your passion, you will find the hardest thing like the easiest one. If photography is your passion, do it and spent time, you will get the best soon or later.
  • Simple celebration: Never miss a chance to celebrate your life. Celebrate your birthday, celebrate the hangouts with your friends, make each day a celebration by finding happiness in even the smallest thing and finally you will witness a life with simplicity and happiness.
  • Dream: Find the time to dream what you love and like, slowly and slowly you are making the path easier. The more you dream, the more you enjoy your life.

More than everything believe “Nobody can create a simple life unless and until they try…”.

“Design your life and live in your passion…”

3 Impacts: The People Effect in Life

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From: My Life

We are living in a society where we share happiness, sorrows, exchange our ideas and build relationships and also break some relationships too. It is true that as a human we cannot live alone in the world; when you think about this, you will find and summarize the people effects into three:

  1. They Mold You
  2. They Love You
  3. They will teach you

They Mold You: When we are living in a society where each everybody is different in both physically and mentally, the experience that you learn from each person will be entirely different, the knowledge that you receive from them will be immense. Likewise, each and every person whom you meet in your life will contribute something to your life; this is why when you are growing and this why you are changing the way you behave, the way you see things and the way you believe. That’s why all of us are going to school, religious institution etc to shape and mold our physical, mental and emotional abilities and qualities.

They Love You: This is one of the great reasons that you cannot live alone and the best people effect in your life, you would feel love only and only when you are living in a society where you are having a role in somebody’s life. People will love you unconditionally and for sure we all want it without any doubt, this is the one thing that gives you the life even though you are living physically. You can easily identify the person who is in love for that you only need five minutes with him/her, that is the impact of love in life.

They will teach you lessons: Last but not least, all the people who come across your life will teach you some great lessons. You just think about your friends, families, colleagues or anybody else, for sure that they would contributed something to your life, it may be hard or soft but you will learn something from them. One of the great lessons that you might learned is “You will get only what you deserve”.

The lessons that you learned from others will help you to light up your life, you will find your real potential and you will find for what/whom you are living in this world.

 

 

24 Things to Remember in Your Life

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From: Margie Harrel’s blog

1. Your presence is a present to the world.

2. You’re unique and one of a kind.

3. Your life can be what you want it to be

4. Take the days just one at a time.

5. Count your blessings, not your troubles.

6. You’ll make it through whatever comes along.

7. Within you are so many answers.

8. Understand, have courage, be strong.

9. Don’t put limits on yourself.

10. So many dreams are waiting to be realized.

11. Decisions are too important to leave to chance.

12. Reach for your peak, your goal, and your prize.

13. Nothing wastes more energy than worrying.

14. The longer one carries a problem, the heavier it gets.

15. Don’t take things too seriously.

16. Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.

17. Remember that a little love goes a long way.

18. Remember that a lot . . . goes forever.

19. Remember that friendship is a wise investment.

20. Life’s treasures are people . . . together.

21. Realize that it’s never too late.

22. Do ordinary things in an extraordinary way.

23. Have health and hope and happiness.

24. Take the time to wish upon a star.  

10 Things to Design Your Life and to Live In Your Passion

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“If you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it…”

Its true that many of the people are existing but not living their life but why? There is no life if you don’t have a passion.

Its proven that we are the designers of out life as great people said “You are the product of your thoughts..”. Here, in this article I just listing down some points that can change your life; it can help you to “design your life and live in your passion..”.

1- Let go of the stuff that pulls back you from achieving your dream, desire and life that you are dreaming

Today is the day, where I challenge YOU to look deep within yourself and ask yourself a hard question;

What or who, in your life, do you need to let go of in order to cleanse out anger, frustration, emotional pain, sorrow, fear, negative thoughts etc?

Yes, its true that we all carry many things that we don’t need actually but we are not realizing that such things are squeezing your energy, make you feel tired, will let you down always when you want to do something.

ERASE all those thoughts, stuffs, people from your mind and life and start a new life that you are dreaming. Life needs a cleansing to start a new day.

2-Forgive yourself: Stop regretting about the past and start dreaming for the future

Many people, sometimes including me also regret about the past things, one thing is sure that we cannot change the past; so always think “past is past and lost is lost..”.

Make a decision to forgive yourself and move on – shift your focus from what you did not do; to what you can do now and in the future.

3- Identify the stuff that makes you happy and spent time for that and set it as the high priority thing in your life

All are wandering unnecessarily to get happiness, peace and comfort. Be quite for sometime and think about each and every moment that made you happy and from that choose the best thing and set it as your catalyst for happiness.

For example:

Spending time with your loved ones

– Listen your favorite music

– Take a day out

– Enjoy the solitude

Give much of your time to nurture things that make you happy than wasting time for unnecessary things.

4-  Action oriented attitude= success

People take resolutions but most of them are not trying for that. Have a quick review on your past year targets and achievements, in most of the cases you might see no result. so,

You either take action towards your goals or you don´t – there´s no in between! There´s no trying.

Being action oriented also means that you stop over-thinking things (because that´s not action), you look at the situation, make a quick decision to do what´s best – and then go take care of it!

Don’t let anything stand in your way, be proud of who you are and the decisions you make!

5- Prioritize what really matters and let go of the rest:- make room for what you really want

You can design your life by choosing what you want in your life but for that you need to make room for that, which means you should prioritize things that matters.

Always do things that meet your happiness and passion; never give your time and energy for what you don’t like to do and follow. Say “NO” without any hesitation and move fast.

6-Find your power quote and get inspired by that

Finding a power or making your own quote will give the energy and inspiration for achieve things in your life.

I defined my own power quote and that gives me some kind of fuel when i think of it. hmm. my quote is the following:-

“Designing my life and living in my passion…”

Really the above quote is from my heart and I trust the words in that, especially the word passion. So find your own quote and try to achieve the real life.

7-Raise your standards and enjoy the quality of life

Its not a marketing theme or something like that; its purely means setting up of higher standards in your life.

For eg. there is a hidden fact ‘people always unconsciously notice your shoes while you coming, so wear nice shoes..‘ . In this it tells, raise your standards in the following areas of life:-

– Physical and grooming (buy one or two branded things, you will see that people notice you..)

– Communication and approach (talk with full clarity, good eye contact etc)

– Professional (always provide more than expected, speak abot something new in discussions etc)

– Social (raise your attachment and make others feel your presence)

8- Identify your passion and break the rules for achieve that (only if needed)

The only person who can define your limit is YOU. So now break the rules and boundaries that you set in you mind and explore the real life.

You don’t need to obey the rule that pulls back you from achieving your dreams and life. So Break It!!

9- You weren’t born to be perfect, you were born to be yourself

“Perfectionism is always end in frustration…”

Never be a perfectionist, if you are, you will never be comfortable and satisfied.

Accept who you are and believe that no one replace your seat. If you do things with your full capacity, that itself is enough to achieve you want in your life.

Follow the three rules:-

1. Acknowledge your flaws instead of trying to hide them -ultimately you’ll gain more respect

2. Acknowledge your flaws instead of trying to hide them  ultimately you’ll gain more respect

3. Start with what you have – don´t wait for things to be perfect

10- Trust your heart and do what you love

Finally do what you love..

You don’t need to convince anyone, do things that you love but ensure that others are not affected by you. Without passion you cannot do things at its fullest, you cannot love what you do. So find your passion and live with that.

If you are passionate in doing things that you love:

– you will never feel tired and boring

-you will create wonders

– there won’t be any excuses

“Design your life and live in your passion…”

101 Simple Resolution Ideas for 2014

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2014, one more great year to our life; never let it go like 2013; just make some changes, some improvements. It s high time to think about changing your habits, style and the way you look and the way you live. Take a Resolution for 2014 and have a focused effort on making a life that you wish.

  1. Take the stairs instead of elevators and escalators to get daily exercise.
  2. Walk or ride your bike more often instead of driving.
  3. Schedule “me” time to turn off your cell phone, computer and other electronic devices.
  4. Don’t use your cell phone during work meetings, social events or dinner.
  5. Don’t text and drive (as a matter of fact, don’t use your phone at all while driving).
  6. Cook at home more often—you will learn new cooking skills and save money.
  7. Be more than punctual—try to be early to every meeting you attend.
  8. Make more personal phone calls instead of sending emails and texts.
  9. Write one handwritten letter a month to someone special.
  10. Do something out of your comfort zone.
  11. Bring more to the table at every meeting—speak up and voice your opinion.
  12. Be more willing to talk to others and learn something about strangers.
  13. Sign up for a dance or art class.
  14. Start running a little further each time you run.
  15. Enjoy the seclusion and solitude of eating a meal alone.
  16. Read one new book each month.
  17. Turn off the Internet and television and read a book before falling asleep.
  18. Make more eye contact during conversations.
  19. Use your credit cards for emergencies only by removing them from your purse or wallet. Only spend with whatever cash you bring with you.
  20. Refrain from gossiping and listening to gossip. You’ll be a more trustworthy person and will engage in more productive conversations.
  21. You know it’s the most important meal of the day, so why skip it? Give yourself an extra 15 minutes in the morning to prepare and eat a good breakfast, like organic cage-free eggs, oatmeal or a green smoothie.
  22. Participate in “Meatless Monday” by forgoing meat once a week. It’s budget-friendly and helps improve your health and the environment.
  23.  Make healthy swaps when you can. Substitute soy or almond milk for dairy and try using coconut or olive oil instead of butter and margarine.
  24. Choose organic when possible and spare your body the harmful pesticides.
  25. Try portion control when eating meals. Put leftovers in the refrigerator immediately to prevent eating a second helping.
  26. Use products that are eco-friendly and don’t contain harsh chemicals.
  27. Be more open and communicative with others. You’ll likely gain more respect and cooperation from them.
  28. Get more vitamin D by taking some time to spend outside. Don’t forget the sunscreen!
  29. Stop late-night snacking: your body will take the calories and store them as fat.
  30. Floss your teeth more often.
  31. Try cutting fat from your diet. Fat is not a good energy source and causes major reductions in your physical endurance.
  32. Do more of what you enjoy doing.
  33. Spend a few hours a week enjoying time with your family. Don’t allow any external distractions.
  34. Start recycling by having a designated bin available and educate yourself about what items are recyclable.
  35. Grow a simple garden: start with herbs that are easy to grow and maintain.
  36. Don’t litter.
  37. Spend time once a quarter to de-clutter your home. Get rid of anything you don’t use or haven’t worn in a year.
  38. Learn something new every day.
  39. Start saving for a family vacation today.
  40. Invest in your retirement.
  41. Incorporate more vegetables in your meals.
  42. Substitute red meat for turkey, chicken or even pork.
  43. Buy fresh vegetables instead of canned, which often don’t have as many vitamins and minerals.
  44. Designate a family dinner night that everyone must attend.
  45. Walk your dog every evening after dinner.
  46. Keep in touch with loved ones – update address books, email addresses and phone numbers.
  47. Pick up a new hobby.
  48. Make a spa day once every few months – whether it’s pampering at home or booking at a salon.
  49. Help others by volunteering.
  50. Build a community garden.
  51. Donate furniture and clothes that you no longer use to those in need.
  52. Get organized.
  53. Do a safe walk of your house – replace smoke alarm batteries, check locks on windows and doors.
  54. Save energy this year – replace appliances and light bulbs.
  55. Use more of your kitchen appliances – pull out the slow-cooker, stand mixer, bread maker and juicer.
  56. Plan birthday and holiday gifts ahead of time to save with sales and deals.
  57. Pay off your credit cards.
  58. For everything negative you say, say two things that are positive.
  59. Eat more high quality dark chocolate – it’s loaded with antioxidants.
  60. Listen to more of your favorite type of music. Music boosts spirits and helps reduce depression.
  61. Boost your energy and health by adding fresh juices or green smoothies into your everyday diet.
  62. Revise comfort foods by adding a healthy twist.
  63. Invite more friends and families over for a monthly gathering.
  64. Buy local.
  65. Cut out processed, prepackaged foods.
  66. Eat food that is free from artificial colors, flavors, ingredients and preservatives.
  67. Have more fruit available throughout the day to refuel your energy.
  68. Schedule your day to be productive and plan to get the majority of important business completed in the morning when you’re alert and energized.
  69. Drink water or green tea instead of coffee to reduce caffeine intake and keep you hydrated.
  70. Get on a solid sleep schedule. Listen to your natural sleeping patterns and adjust accordingly. Aim for seven hours of sleep each night.
  71. Prepare ahead of time with travel snacks. Pack a variety of snacks from dried fruit, nuts, energy bars and fruit to help make healthy choices while on the go.
  72. Add more whole grains to your diet. Whole grains have been linked to the battles against heart disease, diabetes and obesity.
  73. Replace sugar with natural sweeteners like agave, honey and Stevia.
  74. Eat with the seasons. You’ll be eating fresh, high-quality ingredients that are packed with the nutrients your body needs.
  75. Bring your lunch from home more often. Whether you’re packing for yourself or for the entire family, creating money-saving lunches is a simple way to add variety to your lunch without breaking the bank.
  76. Cut down your sodium intake by using spices and herbs to flavor your dishes instead of salt.
  77. Use a designated date to complete the majority of your meal shopping and prepare any of your week’s meals in advance to help cut down on cooking time.
  78. Invest in a few kitchen utensils that save you time.
  79. Preserve seasonal fruits and vegetables by learning how to can them. Bulk up on produce that is in season and on sale.
  80. Take preventive measures to minimize the risk of getting sick by washing your hands frequently, eating more fruits and leafy greens, taking a multivitamin and staying active.
  81. Identify the things that make you stressed during the day and take action. Create a list of things that are in your control and take small steps to change them.
  82. Don’t let things out of your control overwhelm you. Realize there are certain obstacles to challenge us, but never defeat us.
  83. Improve your quality of life by getting more involved in your community and connecting with nature.
  84. Support local small businesses and keep your money where you live.
  85. Help reduce your carbon footprint: go car-less one day a week by staying at home, walking, taking public transportation or riding your bike.
  86. Eat five new foods this year. Have you tried kale, quinoa, coconut oil or almond butter yet?
  87. Loosely track your goals. Don’t be too specific on deadlines or set yourself up for failure.
  88. Keep a journal to jot down anything that comes to mind, like recipes, memories and ideas.
  89. Listen more in conversations.
  90. Learn others’ resolutions and help them achieve their goals.
  91. Give someone a compliment once a day, but really mean it.
  92. Rearrange your furniture every once in a while to create a new living space.
  93. Give your dishwasher and washing machine some love. Check for leaks, mold or clogged drains.
  94. Bring some of the items that make you happy at home to your workspace, like photos of family or small trinkets.
  95. Make your bed daily. This simple, three-minute chore is an easy way to positively impact your happiness.
  96. Take the time to clean as you go and clear away any clutter that has accumulated over time.
  97. Not everything is going to be easy or enjoyable, but try to appreciate the challenge and look on the brighter side.
  98. Spend money on things that create memories.
  99. Before you go to bed, take a step away from your daily struggles and contemplate something much larger than yourself.
  100. Give yourself more credit. More than likely, there is no one who will master everything on their list. The fact is, you’re trying and nothing is better than that.
  101. As always, keep it simple.

Mentally Strong People: The 13 Things They Avoid

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From: Forbes Magazine

1. Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves. You don’t see mentally strong people feeling sorry for their circumstances or dwelling on the way they’ve been mistreated. They have learned to take responsibility for their actions and outcomes, and they have an inherent understanding of the fact that frequently life is not fair. They are able to emerge from trying circumstances with self-awareness and gratitude for the lessons learned. When a situation turns out badly, they respond with phrases such as “Oh, well.” Or perhaps simply, “Next!”

2. Give Away Their Power. Mentally strong people avoid giving others the power to make them feel inferior or bad. They understand they are in control of their actions and emotions. They know their strength is in their ability to manage the way they respond.

3.    Shy Away from Change. Mentally strong people embrace change and they welcome challenge. Their biggest “fear,” if they have one, is not of the unknown, but of becoming complacent and stagnant. An environment of change and even uncertainty can energize a mentally strong person and bring out their best.

4. Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control. Mentally strong people don’t complain (much) about bad traffic, lost luggage, or especially about other people, as they recognize that all of these factors are generally beyond their control. In a bad situation, they recognize that the one thing they can always control is their own response and attitude, and they use these attributes well.

5. Worry About Pleasing Others. Know any people pleasers? Or, conversely, people who go out of their way to dis-please others as a way of reinforcing an image of strength? Neither position is a good one. A mentally strong person strives to be kind and fair and to please others where appropriate, but is unafraid to speak up. They are able to withstand the possibility that someone will get upset and will navigate the situation, wherever possible, with grace.

6. Fear Taking Calculated Risks. A mentally strong person is willing to take calculated risks. This is a different thing entirely than jumping headlong into foolish risks. But with mental strength, an individual can weigh the risks and benefits thoroughly, and will fully assess the potential downsides and even the worst-case scenarios before they take action.

7. Dwell on the Past. There is strength in acknowledging the past and especially in acknowledging the things learned from past experiences—but a mentally strong person is able to avoid miring their mental energy in past disappointments or in fantasies of the “glory days” gone by. They invest the majority of their energy in creating an optimal present and future.

8. Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over. We all know the definition of insanity, right? It’s when we take the same actions again and again while hoping for a different and better outcome than we’ve gotten before. A mentally strong person accepts full responsibility for past behavior and is willing to learn from mistakes. Research shows that the ability to be self-reflective in an accurate and productive way is one of the greatest strengths of spectacularly successful executives and entrepreneurs.

9. Resent Other People’s Success. It takes strength of character to feel genuine joy and excitement for other people’s success. Mentally strong people have this ability. They don’t become jealous or resentful when others succeed (although they may take close notes on what the individual did well). They are willing to work hard for their own chances at success, without relying on shortcuts.

10. Give Up After Failure. Every failure is a chance to improve. Even the greatest entrepreneurs are willing to admit that their early efforts invariably brought many failures. Mentally strong people are willing to fail again and again, if necessary, as long as the learning experience from every “failure” can bring them closer to their ultimate goals.

11. Fear Alone Time. Mentally strong people enjoy and even treasure the time they spend alone. They use their downtime to reflect, to plan, and to be productive. Most importantly, they don’t depend on others to shore up their happiness and moods. They can be happy with others, and they can also be happy alone.

12. Feel the World Owes Them Anything. Particularly in the current economy, executives and employees at every level are gaining the realization that the world does not owe them a salary, a benefits package and a comfortable life, regardless of their preparation and schooling. Mentally strong people enter the world prepared to work and succeed on their merits, at every stage of the game.

13. Expect Immediate Results. Whether it’s a workout plan, a nutritional regimen, or starting a business, mentally strong people are “in it for the long haul”. They know better than to expect immediate results. They apply their energy and time in measured doses and they celebrate each milestone and increment of success on the way. They have “staying power.” And they understand that genuine changes take time. Do you have mental strength? Are there elements on this list you need more of? With thanks to Amy Morin, I would like to reinforce my own abilities further in each of these areas today. How about you?